Cutting Energetic Cords: Reclaim Your Power & Return to Yourself

Cutting Energetic Cords: Reclaim Your Power & Return to Yourself

If you’re reading this, you are probably on a path of awakening. You are becoming more aware of your energy, your emotions, and the unseen forces that shape your reality. You are realizing that healing is not just about time passing—it’s about consciously choosing to release what no longer serves you.

I know a thing or two about breakups—not just the romantic kind, but the ones that shake you to your core, leaving you questioning everything. I’ve had relationships that felt impossible to move on from, where I thought I was losing my mind, drowning in a pain so deep it felt like it would never end. There were moments I didn’t want to keep going, where the grief and confusion made me feel like I was being annihilated.

But here’s the truth: it’s not just lovers we stay energetically tied to. Family bonds, friendships, even professional relationships can linger long after they’ve ended. Sometimes, we hold onto these connections out of habit, obligation, or unresolved emotions. Other times, we don’t even realize we’re still carrying them until we feel drained, stuck, or unable to move forward.

At some point, we have to ask ourselves: Am I still giving my energy to something that is no longer giving back to me?

This is where cord cutting becomes a profound act of self-liberation—not as a way to bypass our emotions, but as a way to fully honor, process, and release them so we can reclaim our power.

What Are Energy Cords?

Every time we deeply connect with someone, an energetic cord is formed. These cords act like invisible pathways through which emotions, thoughts, and energy flow between two people.

Some cords are healthy, built on love and mutual support. But others become draining, restrictive, or unbalanced—keeping us tied to the past, limiting our growth, and affecting our emotional and physical well-being.

These cords can exist in many types of relationships:

🔹 Romantic partners & exes – Lingering attachment, unresolved emotions, and energetic ties can remain long after separation.
🔹 Family – Parents, siblings, or childhood conditioning can still unconsciously influence us.
🔹 Friendships – Some friendships evolve, while others become toxic, codependent, or misaligned.
🔹 Work & professional ties – Bosses, coworkers, or clients can take up energetic space, especially in high-stress environments.
🔹 Trauma bonds – Shared hardship can create a connection that feels impossible to break, even when it no longer serves us.
🔹 Social media & public figures – We can become energetically entangled with people we’ve never met by investing too much attention and emotional energy into them.

Not all cords are negative. Some connections are part of our soul’s journey. But when a cord begins to deplete rather than nourish, it’s time to reclaim our energy.

Signs That You’re Still Corded to Someone

💭 You think about them obsessively, even when you don’t want to.
💭 You feel sudden waves of emotion that don’t seem to belong to you.
💭 You experience exhaustion, anxiety, or mood swings without clear cause.
💭 You replay past conversations or interactions in your mind.
💭 You feel guilt, obligation, or an invisible pull toward them, even if they’re no longer in your life.
💭 You struggle to move on, despite knowing deep down that it’s time.

We often don’t realize how much energy we’re leaking until we start practicing mindfulness. The more self-aware we become, the more we recognize where our energy is going—and who is still pulling on it.

Returning Their Things—And Getting Yours Back

Before cutting an energetic cord, it’s important to release physical attachments as well. Objects hold energy. If you still have their belongings—letters, gifts, clothing—ask yourself:

"Does keeping this help me heal, or is it keeping me tied to the past?"

Letting go of these items creates space for new energy to flow into your life.

Similarly, if they have your belongings—things that hold your energy—consider reclaiming them. Sometimes it’s not about the object itself, but about calling back the parts of you that got lost in the connection.

Cord Cutting: A Ceremony of Reclaiming Yourself

Cord cutting isn’t about erasing the past—it’s about setting yourself free in the present. It’s a declaration: I choose myself.

It’s important to note that you don’t have to rush this process. Healing happens in layers. Some cords need to be cut more than once, and that’s okay. Honor your timing.

A Powerful Cord-Cutting Ritual

1️⃣ Find a Quiet Space
Sit in a safe, undisturbed place. Light a candle, burn incense, or hold a crystal—whatever helps you feel grounded.

2️⃣ Acknowledge the Connection
Before you cut, honor what this relationship meant. Say (or write down):
"I acknowledge this bond. I honor what it taught me. But I am ready to release what no longer serves me."

3️⃣ Visualize the Cords
Close your eyes. Breathe deeply. Imagine where this person’s energy is still attached to you—your heart, your gut, your throat?

4️⃣ Process Any Feelings That Arise
Grief, anger, sadness—let them come. Cord cutting isn’t just about severing ties; it’s about honoring your emotions so they can finally move through you.

5️⃣ Cut the Cord
Visualize a sword of light, sacred scissors, or a beam of fire cutting the cord. Some ask spirit guides, ancestors, or Archangel Michael for assistance. If it feels right, say:
"I release this attachment with love. I call all of my energy back to me, cleansed and renewed."

6️⃣ Return What’s Not Yours
Imagine sending back any energy that isn’t yours. You don’t have to carry their pain, their expectations, their projections.

7️⃣ Seal Your Energy Field
Visualize a golden light wrapping around you, keeping your energy intact. Breathe deeply. Feel yourself lighter, freer, whole.

You Deserve to Be Whole

Cutting cords isn’t about coldness or denial. It’s about self-love.

You deserve to wake up without carrying the weight of someone who is no longer walking beside you.
You deserve to feel free from old wounds and draining attachments.
You deserve to have your energy fully present in your own life.

The moment you realize this—the moment you feel it in your bones—is the moment you know:

✨ It’s time to let go. ✨

Your Next Step: Take Back Your Power

🔹 Observe your energy today. Where is it leaking?
🔹 Journal about any lingering emotional ties. Are they serving you?
🔹 Return their things and get yours back. Close the loop.
🔹 Try the cord-cutting ritual. Notice how you feel afterward.
🔹 Share this practice with others. Who in your life might need this?

Healing is a process. You don’t have to rush it. But when the time comes, set yourself free.

Because the most powerful love you will ever experience is the love you reclaim for yourself. 💫✨

Breathwork and Balance: How Your Breath Impacts Your Body and the Art of True Relaxation

Breathwork and Balance: How Your Breath Impacts Your Body and the Art of True Relaxation

Breathing is the most natural thing we do—so automatic that we rarely stop to think about how it shapes our body and well-being. Yet, it holds immense power to heal, transform, and restore us. What many don’t realize, however, is that the way we breathe directly affects the muscles attached to the ribs, known as accessory breathing muscles, which often end up doing more work than they’re designed to do.

Let me start by saying that breathwork has been one of the most profound tools in my own healing journey. From traditional yogic pranayama to dynamic, psychedelic-inspired techniques, breathing has helped me unlock parts of myself I didn’t even know were there. It’s incredible. But one pivotal moment changed how I view breathwork: I was working with a family member who was deeply dedicated to daily breathwork. While their commitment was inspiring, I discovered that many of their accessory breathing muscles—like the scalenes, pecs, and serratus anterior—were painfully tight and overworked. Their muscles were essentially stuck in "fight mode," unable to relax.

At the same time, I’ve also noticed how unconscious breath-holding plays an equally disruptive role in the body. Breath-holding often happens when the mind becomes entranced—whether we’re lost in thought, scrolling on a phone, or caught up in stress or anxiety. This pattern of holding the breath can create dysfunction in the muscles, leading to rigidity and pain, and it mirrors a state of stagnation in the mind and spirit. When the breath stops, it’s as though time stops with it. Energy ceases to flow, and a sense of disconnect takes root.

The good news? When we can train ourselves to breathe steadily and regularly, without holding the breath, life changes profoundly. A steady breath creates a steady mind. It anchors us in the present moment and reconnects us to our body, our emotions, and our sense of spirit.

How Breath Affects Your Accessory Breathing Muscles

When we breathe deeply, especially during intense practices or stress, accessory breathing muscles work alongside the diaphragm to expand and stabilize the ribcage. These include:

• Scalenes (neck): Lift the ribs during inhalation but can cause neck pain when overused.

• Pectoralis Major and Minor (chest): Elevate the ribs but often lead to tightness and rounded shoulders.

• Serratus Anterior (side of ribs): Expands the ribcage but can become fatigued with shallow or overactive breathing.

• Rhomboids (upper back): Assist with stability but get overworked in poor posture.

• Quadratus Lumborum (QL) (lower back): Stabilizes the 12th rib but tightens when the diaphragm isn’t doing its job.

• Intercostals (between ribs): Allow rib expansion but can grow sore from breath-holding or shallow breathing.

The diaphragm, your primary breathing muscle, should carry the majority of the load. But when breath patterns become shallow, held, or overly forced, the accessory muscles step in to compensate. Over time, this compensation creates patterns of chronic tightness, restricted mobility, and even postural imbalances.

When Breath Becomes Imbalanced

Breathwork is powerful, but without recovery and relaxation, or with improper breath patterns, it can lead to problems:

• Excessive Breathing: Intense breathwork without rest can overwork accessory muscles, leading to hypertonic, tender, and fatigued muscles.

• Unconscious Breath-Holding: This habitual pattern creates rigidity in the muscles, particularly the scalenes, pecs, and intercostals, leading to dysfunction, pain, and a sense of stagnation in the body and mind.

• Shallow Breathing: Relying on chest breathing places strain on the upper body and can contribute to feelings of constriction, both physically and emotionally.

Breath is the flow of life. When we force it excessively or block it entirely, we lose the natural rhythm that keeps us aligned and balanced.

What True Relaxation Feels Like

Relaxation isn’t just collapsing on the couch or zoning out—it’s a skill. It’s about creating space for your body to release tension and your mind to quiet.

Imagine your body as a snow globe. When you’re constantly doing, moving, or pushing—whether it’s through breathwork, work, or stress—the snow swirls chaotically. True relaxation is like setting the snow globe down. Over time, the snow settles, and clarity emerges. That’s the gift of letting go.

Balancing Breathwork with Surrender Practices

To prevent overworking your accessory breathing muscles and to reap the full benefits of breathwork, you must balance intensity with rest. Here are some restorative practices that can help:

• Regular Massage: Releases tension in muscles like the QL, scalenes, and pecs.

• Restorative Yoga: Poses like supported fish and reclined bound angle gently open the chest and ribcage.

• Yoga Nidra: Guides the body into deep relaxation while maintaining awareness.

• Epsom Salt Baths: Relax tight muscles and reduce inflammation with magnesium-rich baths.

• Sauna or Steam Room: Heat therapies promote muscle relaxation and improve circulation, making it easier for overworked accessory muscles to release tension.

Final Reflections: Balance Is the Key

Breathwork has the potential to transform your physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being, as it has mine. However, one of the most important lessons I’ve learned is that balance is everything. Excessive breathing can tax your muscles and overheat your system, while unconscious breath-holding can create stagnation, pain, and disconnection from yourself. Your accessory muscles—those that help you breathe—aren’t meant to carry the full load, and your body needs space to recover and integrate.

If you haven’t explored breathwork yet, you’re truly missing out. It’s life-changing. And if you’re curious about restorative yoga, how to build a steady, mindful breath, or how to balance your breathwork practice with relaxation, I’d love to connect with you! Reach out to me anytime—I’d be thrilled to help you explore these incredible practices and find the balance between effort and ease.

Let your breath guide you, but don’t forget to pause, relax, and let the snow settle. Your body, mind, and spirit will thank you. Let’s breathe and restore together!