Cutting Energetic Cords: Reclaim Your Power & Return to Yourself
If you’re reading this, you are probably on a path of awakening. You are becoming more aware of your energy, your emotions, and the unseen forces that shape your reality. You are realizing that healing is not just about time passing—it’s about consciously choosing to release what no longer serves you.
I know a thing or two about breakups—not just the romantic kind, but the ones that shake you to your core, leaving you questioning everything. I’ve had relationships that felt impossible to move on from, where I thought I was losing my mind, drowning in a pain so deep it felt like it would never end. There were moments I didn’t want to keep going, where the grief and confusion made me feel like I was being annihilated.
But here’s the truth: it’s not just lovers we stay energetically tied to. Family bonds, friendships, even professional relationships can linger long after they’ve ended. Sometimes, we hold onto these connections out of habit, obligation, or unresolved emotions. Other times, we don’t even realize we’re still carrying them until we feel drained, stuck, or unable to move forward.
At some point, we have to ask ourselves: Am I still giving my energy to something that is no longer giving back to me?
This is where cord cutting becomes a profound act of self-liberation—not as a way to bypass our emotions, but as a way to fully honor, process, and release them so we can reclaim our power.
What Are Energy Cords?
Every time we deeply connect with someone, an energetic cord is formed. These cords act like invisible pathways through which emotions, thoughts, and energy flow between two people.
Some cords are healthy, built on love and mutual support. But others become draining, restrictive, or unbalanced—keeping us tied to the past, limiting our growth, and affecting our emotional and physical well-being.
These cords can exist in many types of relationships:
🔹 Romantic partners & exes – Lingering attachment, unresolved emotions, and energetic ties can remain long after separation.
🔹 Family – Parents, siblings, or childhood conditioning can still unconsciously influence us.
🔹 Friendships – Some friendships evolve, while others become toxic, codependent, or misaligned.
🔹 Work & professional ties – Bosses, coworkers, or clients can take up energetic space, especially in high-stress environments.
🔹 Trauma bonds – Shared hardship can create a connection that feels impossible to break, even when it no longer serves us.
🔹 Social media & public figures – We can become energetically entangled with people we’ve never met by investing too much attention and emotional energy into them.
Not all cords are negative. Some connections are part of our soul’s journey. But when a cord begins to deplete rather than nourish, it’s time to reclaim our energy.
Signs That You’re Still Corded to Someone
💭 You think about them obsessively, even when you don’t want to.
💭 You feel sudden waves of emotion that don’t seem to belong to you.
💭 You experience exhaustion, anxiety, or mood swings without clear cause.
💭 You replay past conversations or interactions in your mind.
💭 You feel guilt, obligation, or an invisible pull toward them, even if they’re no longer in your life.
💭 You struggle to move on, despite knowing deep down that it’s time.
We often don’t realize how much energy we’re leaking until we start practicing mindfulness. The more self-aware we become, the more we recognize where our energy is going—and who is still pulling on it.
Returning Their Things—And Getting Yours Back
Before cutting an energetic cord, it’s important to release physical attachments as well. Objects hold energy. If you still have their belongings—letters, gifts, clothing—ask yourself:
"Does keeping this help me heal, or is it keeping me tied to the past?"
Letting go of these items creates space for new energy to flow into your life.
Similarly, if they have your belongings—things that hold your energy—consider reclaiming them. Sometimes it’s not about the object itself, but about calling back the parts of you that got lost in the connection.
Cord Cutting: A Ceremony of Reclaiming Yourself
Cord cutting isn’t about erasing the past—it’s about setting yourself free in the present. It’s a declaration: I choose myself.
It’s important to note that you don’t have to rush this process. Healing happens in layers. Some cords need to be cut more than once, and that’s okay. Honor your timing.
A Powerful Cord-Cutting Ritual
1️⃣ Find a Quiet Space
Sit in a safe, undisturbed place. Light a candle, burn incense, or hold a crystal—whatever helps you feel grounded.
2️⃣ Acknowledge the Connection
Before you cut, honor what this relationship meant. Say (or write down):
"I acknowledge this bond. I honor what it taught me. But I am ready to release what no longer serves me."
3️⃣ Visualize the Cords
Close your eyes. Breathe deeply. Imagine where this person’s energy is still attached to you—your heart, your gut, your throat?
4️⃣ Process Any Feelings That Arise
Grief, anger, sadness—let them come. Cord cutting isn’t just about severing ties; it’s about honoring your emotions so they can finally move through you.
5️⃣ Cut the Cord
Visualize a sword of light, sacred scissors, or a beam of fire cutting the cord. Some ask spirit guides, ancestors, or Archangel Michael for assistance. If it feels right, say:
"I release this attachment with love. I call all of my energy back to me, cleansed and renewed."
6️⃣ Return What’s Not Yours
Imagine sending back any energy that isn’t yours. You don’t have to carry their pain, their expectations, their projections.
7️⃣ Seal Your Energy Field
Visualize a golden light wrapping around you, keeping your energy intact. Breathe deeply. Feel yourself lighter, freer, whole.
You Deserve to Be Whole
Cutting cords isn’t about coldness or denial. It’s about self-love.
You deserve to wake up without carrying the weight of someone who is no longer walking beside you.
You deserve to feel free from old wounds and draining attachments.
You deserve to have your energy fully present in your own life.
The moment you realize this—the moment you feel it in your bones—is the moment you know:
✨ It’s time to let go. ✨
Your Next Step: Take Back Your Power
🔹 Observe your energy today. Where is it leaking?
🔹 Journal about any lingering emotional ties. Are they serving you?
🔹 Return their things and get yours back. Close the loop.
🔹 Try the cord-cutting ritual. Notice how you feel afterward.
🔹 Share this practice with others. Who in your life might need this?
Healing is a process. You don’t have to rush it. But when the time comes, set yourself free.
Because the most powerful love you will ever experience is the love you reclaim for yourself. 💫✨
